I’m sure we all felt it would be a golden year. A year for achieving goals, and going after whatever it is that we want..
Instead 2020 has humbled us and changed us in more ways than one. It will indeed be a year that many of us will never forget.
Kobe Bryant’s sudden death in a helicopter crash in January, along with the deaths of his 13 year old daughter and everyone else on board, set the shocking and somber tone of tragedy and despair for the year to come.
So much has happened since then, with the surge of Covid, the mysterious, contagious respiratory illness sweeping in and claiming the lives of more than 200,000 Americans, and millions more around the Globe;
Along with an explosion of civil unrest throughout the nation brought on by unjust killings of unarmed persons of color, ie. George FLoyd, and Breonna Taylor, who was shot and killed by police in her own home, and countless others who were slain without receiving justice: sparked thick tension, marches, riots, protests and violence, not only in the US, but all around the world.
Our sense of normality is gone. People are ordered to stay home, social distance, quarantine, wear masks, and look at the media, which seems to be all we are allowed to do. A media whose only goal is for you to see what only the Elites of our world would like you to see.
Capitalizing on the effects and death rates of Covid, spreading fear, panic and hopelessness throughout the nation and around the World . All for what. A plan? An Agenda? A master reset?
I sincerely hope whatever plans they had hoped to accomplish fails.
And while we all had plans of some sort, 2020 was the year that showed us that: we may plan, but God decides.
It has been a historical year indeed with the biggest and most controversial election to date. A country divided right down the middle between Black and White, & Blue and Red. -And while the tragedy, and the animosity of this year has been magnified like bacteria under a microscope. 2020 has brought many things into perspective for most people.
It has stripped many of us, from homes, jobs, people, loved ones, normality, and at times even our own sanity. Like a harsh slap in the face, this year has brought to our attention, many of the things that are most important in life like; God, our faith, ourselves, and the people we love.
It has also been a constant and consistent reminder that although the life we live is short, God is always in control.
Treat yourself good, live in the moment, value the time you have with the ones you love and drop the ones that don’t.
Whatever you are going to do, do it. Don’t wait, stop living in fear, live life with no regrets, tell people you love them, and be thankful for everything you have. 2020 has been rough for all of us but I dare you to focus on the good. (Try this Exercise: make a collage or a board with the good things or the blessings you have received this year, use pictures, use words, but gather them up and see just how good God has been, and don’t forget the fact that you are able to read this is a blessing too!)
Go forward in God, peace, love, and victory! Love and light – Marleana B.
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Congrats Momma to be, you’re expecting, not only 1 but 2 precious bundles of joy! Pregnancy can be both exciting and nerve wrecking, especially when you’re carrying two. So here are some things to expect in the next 9 months.
Just how every baby is different and develops at their own rate, the same holds true for moms to be. Not every twin mom’s experience will be the same, they may not even be similar at all.
While your anxiety of having twice as much nausea and morning sickness because you are carrying two babies may indeed be possible, it’s not actually a fact that you will experience this.
I know this to be true because I barely experienced a single episode of morning sickness throughout my entire twin pregnancy. I was lucky to receive the long end of the stick when it came to morning sickness and nausea, but this might not be true for you. Fingers crossed that it is though.
Just like any singleton pregnancy these symptoms may or may not appear during your twin pregnancy.
Twin Pregnancy: First Trimester
- Nausea; can begin in the very first month of pregnancy You may experience nausea just a few weeks after becoming pregnant
- Increased urination (can start as early weeks as two weeks into a twin pregnancy)
- You may experience some light headed or dizziness
- Bloating and fatigue are common symptoms felt during the early stages of pregnancy
- Strange Cravings is one the most common signs and symptoms of pregnancy as well as Morning Sickness/vomiting in the first trimester
In these early stages you may or may not experience some light spotting or bleeding, but it should not soak up an entire pantyliner or pad, if so you may be having a miscarriage.
Depending on a women’s Physique, Some women will begin to see a growing bulge, sometimes as early as 14 or 15 weeks.
Twin Pregnancy: Second Trimester
Some women’s morning sickness subsides during the second trimester, but this isn’t true for everyone
- Around 16 and 17 Weeks is when most women experience their babies’ first kicks or movements. Don’t worry if you don’t! Some women experience fetal movement a few weeks earlier or later. You should definitely have felt some fetal movements by week 20.
- As the fetuses continue to grow you will feel increased urges to urinate.
- You should have had an ultrasound or 2 by Week 20. Your doctor or physician should be able to tell the definite sex of your twins by this age, although some physicians are able to discern the sexes slightly earlier.
Twin Pregnancy is treated as a high risk pregnancy so you will be seeing your physician as frequent as every two weeks.
Twin Pregnancy: Third Trimester: 28-40 Weeks
Those who may have experienced a break from nausea and morning sickness in the second trimester may be unpleasantly surprised to find that their nausea and morning sickness may have returned.
- It is also common for you to experience a white or clear odorless discharge during pregnancy.
- Back and joint pain is common during this stage of the pregnancy as your little ones are growing outward.
- You may feel especially fatigued and increasingly uncomfortable at night due to fetal kicks, pain and insomnia
- Towards the end stage of the pregnancy you will begin to experience braxton hicks contractions (different from real contractions that are consistent and a few minutes apart.
- In the last few weeks you may lose your mucus plug
If your water breaks or feel you are having real contractions, head to the emergency room, and call your physician or midwife. Your own pregnancy experience will vary, remember to keep track of all your appointments, stay hydrated, maintain a healthy diet, and get plenty of rest when you need it.
Quarantine; the New Norm.
Only 3 months into 2020 and what a year it has been. January left us shocked with the fatal helicopter crash that claimed Kobe Bryant’s death and the lives of 8 other’s.
Now an unexpected virus has crept into our lives country by country, county by county, and city by city.
I just want to say, what a way to start the decade.
“Corona” is the virus that will make America or break it.
With number of confirmed cases steadily on the rise in almost every state, more and more schools, and businesses are closing their doors. The stock Market has crashed and no one knows when this invisible virus “plans to finish it’s business.”
There are only 2 possible outcomes; America will either bounce back to be better than it was before, or it will fall to a place which we would have to take time recovering from.
It’s not just up to our leaders and the governors of our country and state, but it’s up to us as well. WE ALL PLAY A PART in the spread/containment of this virus, but only time will tell.
Who knows how long the pandemic will last, but we do need to make the best of it. Spend this quarantine time with your family, and just appreciating life, Pray, talk to God, and ask him for blessings, and guidance over you life.
Gain clarity for yourself. This quarantine is a break that most of us needed.
I’ll be the first in life to say this is true for me. This time has given me a new focus, and outlook on life. I was in absolute misery at my job, and not living up to my full potential.
After this pandemic is over they may not see me back!
I’m not saying quit your job, but use this time to focus on you. Ask yourself; if what you are doing is leading to the life and the things you want. If not; what can you do to start changing this.
Get Your Journal & Start Brainstorming!
Peace & Love ~Marleana
I’m excited to announce that I have a brand new Ebook coming this April titled “9 Easy Steps to Change Your Life and Attract the Things You Want“
This book will include 9 chapters, including worksheets, checklists, and life changing advice on how to turn your life around and start living the life you want by following 9 simple steps.
The book is based on my personal trials, surviving domestic violence, financial abuse, overcoming my fears, and learning how to love myself again.
This book will teach you how to change your mindset to attract the life you want and living your dreams
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Love, Peace, and Happiness.
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What happens when you workout everyday for 30 days:
When you workout everyday for 3o days you turn your body into a lean, mean, fat burning, muscle machine and all your weight loss goals are achieved!
Sike, just kidding the latter part of that statement is completely untrue, unless your goal is to drop 3 to 5 pounds.
While a lot can change in 30 days, your results will vary based on your weight, diet, and of course the duration and stress level of your workout.
While exercise is a important part of weight loss, your diet plays a crucial part in the results you see.
If you’re going to consume a lot of sugar, carbs and processed food, during your 30 day workout then you might as well take a step back and rethink this whole fitness thing.
Consuming foods high in sugar, while exercising may even cause you to gain weight. So before you start your fitness journey make sure you’re also ready to make the necessary changes to your diet as well.
With all that being said here are some things you can expect when you workout everyday for 30 days.
After the first week of working out, the first thing I noticed was brighter, clearer, skin! Before I had started my workouts I would look at myself in the mirror and feel like my skin had a dullness to it.
Exercising is a great way to help your body expel toxins lying dormant underneath your skin. The more you workout, the more your skin will appear healthy and start to take on a natural glow!
The second thing I noticed after working out for a few weeks was that I had more energy than usual.
I had more energy to do thing around the house, take my kids to the park, walking places, and running up steps in general. I noticed that I would be less out of breath when walking my daughters to and from school.
Because I incorporated jogging into some of my workouts, both my legs and lungs began to feel stronger.
The goal is to have a smaller waistline. The problem is that you might not see a drastic change after working out for 30 days. While I didn’t measure my waistline for changes in my circumference (which probably would have been a good idea) I did notice that my physique had a slimmer appearance, mainly in my arms, face, and chest.
What I did during my 30 day fitness challenge:
Seeing those small results and changes can really motivate you to continue on with your weight loss journey. The key to meeting your weight loss goals is to be consistent with both your dieting and exercise. Don’t stop at 30 days keep going!
My biggest challenge was establishing a healthy diet. Eating, more specifically snacking has always been a challenge for me. I’ve always been serial snacker.
Depression mixed with stress, anxiety, and a slew of other emotions made me an emotional wreck and a binge eater. I made the huge mistake of believing I could still have my snacks, thinking I’d just burn it off during my workout, which actually prevented me from seeing much movement on the scale.
I didn’t have a set time for doing my workouts, besides for in the afternoon, after work, or in the evenings. My workouts either consisted of a 15 minute jog around the block, or my favorite 30 minute Tae Bo workout video which I’ll link here.
Did I exercise every single day of the whole month: No. It was my goal to exercise every single day for 30 days, and out of those 30 days I missed a total of 2 days.
Was every day perfect, no. Was I always motivated, definitely not, but I didn’t give up.
I believe doing the 30 day fitness challenge is a great way to inspire yourself and jump start your fitness journey, even if you don’t continue to workout, every single day, keep your body moving, and get your heart pumping at least 4 or 5 times a week.
Where are you on your fitness challenge? Are you taking the 30 day fitness challenge? What are your weight loss goals, share your progress with me down below!
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We all have that thing that’s been locked away, deep in our minds from the furthest reaches of our day to day thoughts. We’ve considered doing “it” for quite sometime, but somehow, we always find an excuse to put it off; whether it be writing that long awaited book, taking that dream vacation, trying out that brand new restaurant or fitness class, or even, striking up the nerve to ask that cute guy or girl on a date…
We’ve all been there.
For a fleeting moment an idea seems great, fun, exciting even, but moments later the rational side our brain awakens, beats this great idea down, and locks it away as a possibility for, maybe another time. Which usually never happens, and is rarely thought of ever again.
Well, here are five reasons to finally do that thing.
- Life is Short.
Unfortunately, we never know when our time will be up. On average most people live to be about 70 years old. Although that may seem like a long time, it really isn’t.
Think of your current age now: are you 20, 30, 40, 50?
Now ask yourself: Did it take long to get here?
If you answered no, imagine living that amount of time again, (20, 30, 40, years) but this time you have aged, and your health isn’t all that it used to be. You can’t climb Mount. Everest, or visit Machu Pichu from your deathbed. So don’t wait till later, because you may never get another chance to.
2. The Possibilities are endless.
You never know where trying new things might lead you. Chances are, you’ll meet new people, make new friends, find opportunities, learn some things, fall in love, or make some money while you’re at it. Maybe you have a great invention that world needs to know about, but…
3. You will never know if you don’t try.
You can never know what’s on the other side of the door, if you never open it. (Unless the door is made of glass then you would just look, but for this case lets say the door is metal or wood…) How can you reap the benefits of something if you never do it? You must apply yourself, no one else can do it for you.
4. It may have a positive impact on your life and others.
Yes, meeting your soulmate is great, and cash is great also, but what about your mental health, and your physical state of being.Taking care of yourself should always be your top priority, (I know, it’s easier said than done, but it’s still absolutely true) so, why not sign up for that dance class, or go biking or jogging to get fit. Who knows, your success may also inspire others.
5. Do it, If it makes you happy.
Of course, if you enjoy doing something, then do it, and when you do, give it your all. As long as you’re not hurting or killing anyone, why not? Life is about finding our place in the world and doing what makes us happy, healthy and productive. If it makes you happy, then chances are, you are doing what’s best for you. So get out there, start living life to the fullest, and enjoying all the things that you want to do before it’s too late.
So Go Ahead, Just Do The Darn Thing!
Yes, their chubby cheeks are cute, and their kisses are heaven-sent, but the catastrophic messes they make, and the unpredictable tantrums they throw, can give anyone the urge to lock themselves into a room, crawl into a ball, and cry…
It’s already bad enough, you can no longer keep a single morsel of food to yourself without your child’s precious little ravenous fingers reaching up to claim whatever, fork, spoon, or snack, that was about to descend into the depths of your mouth. Let alone that their time is their time, and your time is… well of course it’s their time as well!
Parenting is hard. If you think dealing with one toddler is a strenuous task, try raising two at the exact same age. It gets tough.
It’s hard not to lose your sanity when two toddlers insist that dinner should be smeared on the walls, and floors as art, or that their diapers should be worn on their heads as hats, instead of their butts, which in just moments, inevitably creates, one really big mess.
And please, do not dare commit the heinous act, of not refilling a sippy cup within the allotted time of 60 seconds; it just may as well be, the end of the world.
Yes I know, I shouldn’t complain, because they are healthy, and happy, and as constantly growing humans, they are going through a lot.
Sure, it’s tough work being a toddler. There’s so much to see, so much learn and do; lots of teeth to grow, and different things to chew. There’s always new things to discover; even if it is that bottle of chocolate syrup, you thought, you put high enough, up… Newsflash: You didn’t.
And no one, not a single soul, desires to have their sleep blatantly interrupted, by a toddler’s,–in this case two– blood-curdling scream, at 2 in the morning, to have them only return to bed an enervating, 3 hours later…
Most parents would agree that, raising children—even a single child— is often a daunting task. Parenting has it’s ups and it’s downs, and while the joys of parenthood are abundant, we understand that our precious little angels can be some of the most unpleasant creatures, that we’ve ever met.
Being a social introvert does have some perks to it. Sure, having alone time is great, and not being pressured to attend excessively, loud and crowded gatherings and events is a plus as well… But when you stop and realize that you’ve only acquainted approximately 3 and a half people out of nearly 7.5 billion, and even then,you only speak to one of the three on occasion; you might say to yourself:
Oh my God I think it’s time for me to make some new friends.
I have recently had this epiphany. As a social introvert myself, social scenes can be an absolute nightmare.
So many people, each with their own personality, thoughts, and opinions. Who wants to deal with them all? What should I say, how should I act, what if no one likes me, are very real fears of a social introvert.
I have never been a cool kid; growing up I was the exact opposite. I could never fit in.
I wore weird clothes, matched with awkwardly colored shaped hats, listened to strange music, read lots of books, and kept to myself. I guess my weird appearance gave me an excuse to be a loner, and in turn made me into the social introvert that I am today.
Usually I dread even the simplest of everyday social activities such as going to the market or taking my kids to the park. Even crossing the threshold of my own door can sometimes cause an irrational anxiety and fear to bubble up inside me.
Oh, and dear God, don’t let the door bell ring. I can’t imagine what foul and repulsive soul would have the audacity to appear outside my home and summon me from my reclusive activities. I was just fine in my own world, quite possibly on a planet in a whole different galaxy.
Yes I would love to imagine that I’ve made great strides with my anxiety, since my awkward adolescent years, but I’ve realized I’ve only managed to subtly subdue my social fears at most, for certain social events when needed.
I have often wondered, if I will ever over come my social anxiety. I mean sure this must be unnatural, and unhealthy for the average human being but social anxiety is an issue that we really don’t see.
With our TVs, laptops, smart phones and other handheld devices encouraging more and more screen time and less interaction; social introverts are definitely on the rise. And while this may not necessarily be a deplorable case in my eyes, or the minds of fellow introverts; it does leave one to ponder what a futuristic society would be like if we had all morphed into antisocial introverts.
What are your thoughts on technology and the rise of social introverts. Do you believe this to be true? Are you perhaps an introvert too?