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Thanksgiving Day Funk

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We all know everyday is a day is a day to be thankful, but ESPECIALLY on holidays like Thanksgiving. It’s a designated time of year, for family, good food, laughter, and cheer, but unbeknownst to some the holiday season can be one of the lonliest times of the year. 

2020 has been something of a disaster for most, everyone has been affected by COVID 19, in some way shape or form, whether it’s been the lost of a family member, friend, job, certain freedoms, or faith in a brighter future.

The tragedy is there. The sadness is there, the depression, and the stress is there, and it’s not just going to go away because of our regularly scheduled holiday programming.

For many, the holidays are a great time for families to travel, gather, and reunite, but there are some of us, who simply just can’t relate, and instead it becomes a large mirror forcing you to reflect on what you don’t or didn’t have.

Growing up, even before my mother passed, we didn’t celebrate holidays or have large gatherings. Everyday was the same, there was no holiday spirit or Christmas cheer,  it just wasn’t in our system of beliefs; but there was church, it seems like there was always time for that…

It’s no wonder that after she died, what was “left” of the family fell apart.

 I don’t blame my brother and sister who were young adults at the time of her passing, so many years living under strict rule, going to a place of worship your mom devoted her time and life to, but yet it didn’t save hers.

My mother passed a month after I turned 11. I have no idea what the last words I ever said to her, I don’t think at the time I realized that she wouldn’t be coming back. Things were very lonely after that.

There was no one there to build or lift me up, or teach me how to be a respectable lady, and warn me not to rush. I mean there again was always church, which seemed a blessing and a curse. Now there was no mom, no sister, no brother, but there was dad who had to sit all the way on the other side of the church

At a young age it taught me that in short amounts of time anything could change, and that sitting down, and being quiet was possibly the best or only thing I could do in life.

I guess that’s why I was in such a rush to grow up. I wanted love and affection from someone else. 

I did not love myself and because of it, it vastly changed the direction of my life. With someone, just  to be with them, no matter the outcome or cost, and it certainly did cost me lot, my livelihood, my mental, emotional health, the list goes on… it’s  a price I’m still paying, a deep wound that’s still healing, a massive dark  hole that I am still digging, and climbing out.

On some days it’s easier, on days like thanksgiving, birthdays, and Christmas it’s not. While everyone is coming together to take part in the holiday cheer, laugh, eat, and smile, it’s a reminder of what I failed to produce, and the cozy childhood I never got.

But I am grateful, and thankful, nonetheless. 

It reminds me to cherish the moments with the little ones who are dear to my heart. If you’re feeling down in the dumps this holiday, just know you aren’t alone. Everyone is going through something. This year, has been a year like no other. Remember to be gentle with yourself.

PROVERBS 10:22: “The Blessings of the Lord maketh rich and addeth no sorrow with it.”

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What It’s Like Being A Single Mother On Mother’s Day.

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First off; being a mother is the most challenging, emotional, painful, happiest, and rewarding job anyone could ever do! There is absolutely nothing in the World like the job of a mother, and for a single mother, it’s all of that times two.

Twice the pain, twice the challenge, twice the emotion, but it’s also twice the happiness, twice the love, and twice the reward too. At the end of the day Single mothers really are doing a job that was meant to be done by two.

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Do I say this to take away from the significance of moms living in a two parent household? Absolutely Not, because I’ve been there too.

There are some women in two parent households who take the bulk of the responsibility of the parenting and the dad does absolute shit, doesn’t do anything, doesn’t help with anything, and honestly feels that he’s not supposed to.

These women I feel sorry for, because there’s absolutely nothing worse than being a mother and having to take care of your own children plus someone else’s grown one.

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I know her. because I was her. In a way, the death of my relationship freed up some areas of responsibility, while dropping more pressure on others.

As a single mother the sole responsibility falls on you, and the burden becomes twice as heavy when the other parent decides to do the bare minimum, or in many cases nothing at all.

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As a single mom you are left to become the sole provider, the breadwinner, the comforter, the coach, the teacher, the referee, the tutor, the planner, the nurse, the chef, the maid, the hairstylist, playmate etc…

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You have to take on the role of both mom and dad, and at the end of the day you are supposed to be able to take care of yourself as well. Most women who are mother’s have a problem with this. There is simply so much to do, that it’s hard to find the time or energy to do anything for yourself, resulting in sadness, depression, and other ailments. These situations become especially true for single mother’s who receive little or no support.

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I can honestly say that on this Mother’s Day: while I am thankful, grateful, and blessed, I am burnt out. I’m tired, a little lonely, a little mad and a little sad. This day honoring mothers, for me is just another like any other day. I’m alone with my twin daughters and I’m struggling to play the roles of both mom and dad, the playmate, the nurse, the chef, the maid…

How DO You Feel About This Post? Are You A Single Mother? How Are You Feeling Today, And What Do You Do To Celebrate Mother’s Day?

Salute To MOMMIES Everywhere On Mother’s Day!
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Twin Pregnancy

Twin Pregnancy: The Good & The Not So Good…

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Congrats Momma to be, you’re expecting, not only 1 but 2 precious bundles of joy! Pregnancy can be both exciting and nerve wrecking, especially when you’re carrying two. So here are some things to expect in the next 9 months.

Just how every baby is different and develops at their own rate, the same holds true for moms to be. Not every twin mom’s experience will be the same, they may not even be similar at all.

While your anxiety of having twice as much nausea and morning sickness because you are carrying two babies may indeed be possible, it’s not actually a fact that you will experience this.

I know this to be true because I barely experienced a single episode of morning sickness throughout my entire twin pregnancy. I was lucky to receive the long end of the stick when it came to morning sickness and nausea, but this might not be true for you. Fingers crossed that it is though.

Just like any singleton pregnancy these symptoms may or may not appear during your twin pregnancy. 

Twin Pregnancy: First Trimester

  • Nausea; can begin in the very first month of pregnancy You may experience nausea just a few weeks after becoming pregnant
  • Increased urination (can start as early weeks as two weeks into a twin pregnancy)
  • You may experience some light headed or dizziness
  • Bloating and fatigue are common symptoms felt during the early stages of pregnancy
  • Strange Cravings is one the most common signs and symptoms of pregnancy as well as Morning Sickness/vomiting in the first trimester

In these early stages you may or may not experience some light spotting or bleeding, but it should not soak up  an entire pantyliner or pad, if so you may be having a miscarriage. 

Depending on a women’s Physique, Some women will begin to see a growing bulge, sometimes as early as 14 or 15 weeks.

Twin Pregnancy: Second Trimester

Some women’s morning sickness subsides during the second trimester, but this isn’t true for everyone

  • Around 16 and 17 Weeks is when most women experience their babies’ first kicks or movements. Don’t worry if you don’t! Some women experience fetal movement a few weeks earlier or later. You should definitely have felt some fetal movements by week 20.
  • As the fetuses continue to grow you will feel increased urges to urinate.
  • You should have had an ultrasound or 2 by Week 20. Your doctor or physician should be able to tell the definite sex of your twins by this age, although some physicians are able to discern the sexes slightly earlier.

Twin Pregnancy is treated as a high risk pregnancy so you will be seeing your physician as frequent as every two weeks.

Twin Pregnancy: Third Trimester: 28-40 Weeks

Those who may have experienced a break from nausea and morning sickness in the second trimester may be unpleasantly surprised to find that their nausea and morning sickness may have returned.

  • It is also common for you to experience a white or clear odorless discharge during pregnancy.
  • Back and joint pain is common during this stage of the pregnancy as your little ones are growing outward.
  • You may feel especially fatigued and increasingly uncomfortable at night due to fetal kicks, pain and insomnia
  • Towards the end stage of the pregnancy you will begin to experience braxton hicks contractions (different from real contractions that are consistent and a few minutes apart.
  • In the last few weeks you may lose your mucus plug

If your water breaks or feel you are having real contractions, head to the emergency room, and call your physician or midwife. Your own pregnancy experience will vary, remember to keep track of all your appointments, stay hydrated, maintain a healthy diet, and get plenty of rest when you need it.

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IT’S PRETTY CLEAR THAT TODDLERS SUCK.

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Yes, their chubby cheeks are cute, and their kisses are heaven-sent, but the catastrophic messes they make, and the unpredictable tantrums they throw, can give anyone the urge to lock themselves into a room, crawl into a ball, and cry…

It’s already bad enough, you can no longer keep a single morsel of food to yourself without your child’s precious little ravenous fingers reaching up to claim whatever, fork, spoon, or snack, that was about to descend into the depths of your mouth. Let alone that their time is their time, and your time is… well of course it’s their time as well!

Parenting is hard. If you think dealing with one toddler is a strenuous task, try raising two at the exact same age. It gets tough.

It’s hard not to lose your sanity when two toddlers insist that dinner should be smeared on the walls, and floors as art, or that their diapers should be worn on their heads as hats, instead of their butts, which in just moments, inevitably creates, one really big mess.

And please, do not dare commit the heinous act, of not refilling a sippy cup within the allotted time of 60 seconds; it just may as well be, the end of the world.

Yes I know, I shouldn’t complain, because they are healthy, and happy, and as constantly growing humans, they are going through a lot.

Sure, it’s tough work being a toddler. There’s so much to see, so much learn and do; lots of teeth to grow, and different things to chew. There’s always new things to discover; even if it is that bottle of chocolate syrup, you thought, you put high enough, up… Newsflash: You didn’t.

And no one, not a single soul, desires to have their sleep blatantly interrupted, by a toddler’s,–in this case two– blood-curdling scream, at 2 in the morning, to have them only return to bed an enervating, 3 hours later…

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This is Jada. Jada is 17 months old. It is currently 4 am. I am tired. She is also tired, but she insists that playing with the door, is more important than getting a good night’s sleep.

Most parents would agree that, raising children—even a single child— is often a daunting task. Parenting has it’s ups and it’s downs, and while the joys of parenthood are abundant, we understand that our precious little angels can be some of the most unpleasant creatures, that we’ve ever met.

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THE BOSS MILLENNIAL

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Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.

-Oscar Wilde

Welcome to The Boss Millennial! My name is Marleana, and I will be your host/conductor for this ride. I’m glad you’re here because this journey isn’t meant to be taken alone, so come on in, get settled, we’re going to become the best of friends. It’s here on this blog, on this web page, where we are going to discuss this thing called life, the good, the bad, the virtuous and the evil, and the ugly along with the pretty.

It’s 2019, the world is a sweet but bitter place. If you’re not ready to laugh, cry, pray, grow, inspire or be inspired then this blog is not for you, and it’s time for you to go. We will be breaking all kinds of chains and boundaries concerning health, wealth, family, and relationships both physical, spiritual, and mental.

So thank you for being here and lets get ready to begin!

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