Thanksgiving Day Funk

We all know everyday is a day is a day to be thankful, but ESPECIALLY on holidays like Thanksgiving. It’s a designated time of year, for family, good food, laughter, and cheer, but unbeknownst to some the holiday season can be one of the lonliest times of the year. 

2020 has been something of a disaster for most, everyone has been affected by COVID 19, in some way shape or form, whether it’s been the lost of a family member, friend, job, certain freedoms, or faith in a brighter future.

The tragedy is there. The sadness is there, the depression, and the stress is there, and it’s not just going to go away because of our regularly scheduled holiday programming.

For many, the holidays are a great time for families to travel, gather, and reunite, but there are some of us, who simply just can’t relate, and instead it becomes a large mirror forcing you to reflect on what you don’t or didn’t have.

Growing up, even before my mother passed, we didn’t celebrate holidays or have large gatherings. Everyday was the same, there was no holiday spirit or Christmas cheer,  it just wasn’t in our system of beliefs; but there was church, it seems like there was always time for that…

It’s no wonder that after she died, what was “left” of the family fell apart.

 I don’t blame my brother and sister who were young adults at the time of her passing, so many years living under strict rule, going to a place of worship your mom devoted her time and life to, but yet it didn’t save hers.

My mother passed a month after I turned 11. I have no idea what the last words I ever said to her, I don’t think at the time I realized that she wouldn’t be coming back. Things were very lonely after that.

There was no one there to build or lift me up, or teach me how to be a respectable lady, and warn me not to rush. I mean there again was always church, which seemed a blessing and a curse. Now there was no mom, no sister, no brother, but there was dad who had to sit all the way on the other side of the church

At a young age it taught me that in short amounts of time anything could change, and that sitting down, and being quiet was possibly the best or only thing I could do in life.

I guess that’s why I was in such a rush to grow up. I wanted love and affection from someone else. 

I did not love myself and because of it, it vastly changed the direction of my life. With someone, just  to be with them, no matter the outcome or cost, and it certainly did cost me lot, my livelihood, my mental, emotional health, the list goes on… it’s  a price I’m still paying, a deep wound that’s still healing, a massive dark  hole that I am still digging, and climbing out.

On some days it’s easier, on days like thanksgiving, birthdays, and Christmas it’s not. While everyone is coming together to take part in the holiday cheer, laugh, eat, and smile, it’s a reminder of what I failed to produce, and the cozy childhood I never got.

But I am grateful, and thankful, nonetheless. 

It reminds me to cherish the moments with the little ones who are dear to my heart. If you’re feeling down in the dumps this holiday, just know you aren’t alone. Everyone is going through something. This year, has been a year like no other. Remember to be gentle with yourself.

PROVERBS 10:22: “The Blessings of the Lord maketh rich and addeth no sorrow with it.”

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7 Powerful Affirmations To Thwart Off Jealousy and Comparison

Let’s be real! We live in a digital age, where it is extremely easy to fall into traps of comparison.  There is so much pressure to look, act and be like those around us, ESPECIALLY on social media!

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 That’s why I compiled this short but great list of affirmations to center your thoughts and thwart off those negative feelings of jealousy and comparison!
Feeling that anxious, dreadful feeling well have a look at the slides below
for a few reminders, that life is not a race, and there is simply no need to be envious of others. Where you are, is right where you need to be.

Here they are again in list form

✅1 Other women are not my competition!

✅2 what’s for me is for me.

✅3 I am unique and so is my journey 

✅4 God has a plan and a purpose for my life .

✅5 No one is above or beneath me

✅6 I am blessed. 

✅7 I have everything I need within me to succeed 

7 Powerful Affirmations To Thwart Off Jealousy and Comparison

Keep your vibe high! ❌comparison, ❌envy, ❌jealousy are low vibes that do nothing for you. The next time you feel yourself slipping into one of these moods take a look at this list of affirmations : Read it, say it, write it ✍️

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How To Register An LLC Online In Pennsylvania In 6 Amazingly Simple Steps

Starting a new business is exciting, and sometimes overwhelming. Registering your business as an LLC is smart and quick way to save you some hassle and get your business quickly off the ground and running LEGALLY. If your are looking to register your business as an LLC in Pennsylvania then you have come to the right place. Read on to learn how to quickly register your LLC online today! So Let’s jump right it.

Register Your LLC Step 1

Go to corporations.pa.gov Find and Select the login link. Since you have never filed a certificate of Organization you will need to register for an account. (The Login link will automatically take you to hub.business.pa.gov/login where you’ll be able to register a new PA Keystone account.

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Register Your LLC Step 2

Once you have followed all instructions to create and confirm your PA Keystone Account you will be prompted to create a Penn File Account. Simply choose a username and create a password. *Don’t forget to write down or store user login info in a safe place!

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Register Your LLC Step 3

Now that your accounts have been created you will be logged in, and able to start filing. On the WELCOME page select the link labeled Penn File. which will take you to your user dashboard. On the same page scroll down to the section emboldened and Labeled Start Or Manage Business Filings under this heading scroll down until you find the link for Domestic Limited Liability Company.

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Register Your LLC Step 4

Once you have selected the first link under Domestic Limited Liability Company Certificate of Organization – Domestic Limited Liability Company (8821), you will now be able to follow the screens, enter your personal info and name/address of your business, and name of organizers as well as upload any other necessary documents regarding your business.

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Register Your LLC Step 5

Once You have completed all the tabs you will be prompted to review your submitted information. Please REVIEW before submitting! Errors in information could result in a denial of certificate! 

Register Your LLC Step 6

Submit and pay the nonrefundable fee of $125 (this is charged whether your LLC is approved or not) Once Payment is complete you will be emailed a receipt. Once your payment has been processed your completed business filing form will be available to Download on your Homepage Dashboard under completed filings for the next 30 days. You will be notified by email when your filing is approved.

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And that’s it! Really Straightforward and simple way to register your LLC without any extra services or fees in PA.

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5 Simple Ways To Adapt A Winning Mindset

Everyone wants to win, but not everyone has what it takes to win. The only thing you need to be successful is a winning mindset. Success is difficult for some because they just aren’t capable of changing the way they think! The good news is that, it doesn’t have to be you! So here are 5 Simple Ways To Adapt A Winning Mindset.

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1. Think Positive

Although simple, thinking positive is not always easy to do. Life is raging around us and happening to us every single day. Many people are dying, others are being killed, raped, kidnapped etc. Life is not always easy or good to us, things change and sometimes they take a turn for the worst but, you must try your best to not let these things affect you.

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No matter what the circumstances are around you, you have to be able to cultivate positive thoughts. The more you focus on the negative aspects of life, the more negative: thoughts, feelings, information, and incidents will flow to you. This type of negative information will clog your mind and make it difficult to focus on the things you should actually be focused on.

When you feel yourself thinking negatively, train yourself to stop in mid thought, and focus on something else. The more you focus on the positive, the more positive thoughts, information, ideas and opportunities you’ll come across. Which leads to number 2

2.Have a Spirit of Gratitude

The 2nd simple way to adapt a winning Mindset is to be genuinely thankful or grateful. When you start to focus on the good, and the abundance of what you do have, and the things around you, (not just material things, but life and health it’s self) you begin to attract more of those things to you. That’s why it’s so important to count your blessings!

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3.Be Assertive

In order to adapt a winning mindset you need to be firm in your mind, in your goals, and in what you believe in. If you want to win, you have to know that you are going to win, and that there are no if’s, and’s, or but’s about it. If you leave room for an if, or a but, or a maybe, then you have already set yourself up to fail. Those if’s, and maybe’s leaves room for lack of motivation, lack of discipline, and plenty of room for error. So if you have a goal, or a dream, or an idea, then you need to get firm about it in your mind, be unwavering, and stick to it.

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4. Be Patient

Being patience is hard for a lot of us. Everything in this day and age is immediately placed at our fingertips, and it better run smooth, and not buffer or delay, or we’ll catch an attitude! But if you want to adapt a winning mindset you are going to have to learn how to be patient. Good things take time, and lot’s of hard work. The bible speaks on the importance of patience

James 1:4 : But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.

If you want something done, and you want it done right, you have to be patient.

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5.Be Flexible

Lastly for this list is to be flexible. If you want to adapt a winning mindset you are going to have to be open to change, and learning new things. Keep this in mind. Successful people are always learning, adapting, and applying new things. New methods, and strategies are always on the rise, and techniques change. As you grow and life changes you have to be able to evolve and adapt mentally as well. Your flexibility will contribute to the longevity of your success, so be malleable, we were meant to change.

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What It’s Like Being A Single Mother On Mother’s Day.

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First off; being a mother is the most challenging, emotional, painful, happiest, and rewarding job anyone could ever do! There is absolutely nothing in the World like the job of a mother, and for a single mother, it’s all of that times two.

Twice the pain, twice the challenge, twice the emotion, but it’s also twice the happiness, twice the love, and twice the reward too. At the end of the day Single mothers really are doing a job that was meant to be done by two.

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Do I say this to take away from the significance of moms living in a two parent household? Absolutely Not, because I’ve been there too.

There are some women in two parent households who take the bulk of the responsibility of the parenting and the dad does absolute shit, doesn’t do anything, doesn’t help with anything, and honestly feels that he’s not supposed to.

These women I feel sorry for, because there’s absolutely nothing worse than being a mother and having to take care of your own children plus someone else’s grown one.

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I know her. because I was her. In a way, the death of my relationship freed up some areas of responsibility, while dropping more pressure on others.

As a single mother the sole responsibility falls on you, and the burden becomes twice as heavy when the other parent decides to do the bare minimum, or in many cases nothing at all.

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As a single mom you are left to become the sole provider, the breadwinner, the comforter, the coach, the teacher, the referee, the tutor, the planner, the nurse, the chef, the maid, the hairstylist, playmate etc…

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You have to take on the role of both mom and dad, and at the end of the day you are supposed to be able to take care of yourself as well. Most women who are mother’s have a problem with this. There is simply so much to do, that it’s hard to find the time or energy to do anything for yourself, resulting in sadness, depression, and other ailments. These situations become especially true for single mother’s who receive little or no support.

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I can honestly say that on this Mother’s Day: while I am thankful, grateful, and blessed, I am burnt out. I’m tired, a little lonely, a little mad and a little sad. This day honoring mothers, for me is just another like any other day. I’m alone with my twin daughters and I’m struggling to play the roles of both mom and dad, the playmate, the nurse, the chef, the maid…

How DO You Feel About This Post? Are You A Single Mother? How Are You Feeling Today, And What Do You Do To Celebrate Mother’s Day?

Salute To MOMMIES Everywhere On Mother’s Day!
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Twin Pregnancy: The Good & The Not So Good…

Congrats Momma to be, you’re expecting, not only 1 but 2 precious bundles of joy! Pregnancy can be both exciting and nerve wrecking, especially when you’re carrying two. So here are some things to expect in the next 9 months.

Just how every baby is different and develops at their own rate, the same holds true for moms to be. Not every twin mom’s experience will be the same, they may not even be similar at all.

While your anxiety of having twice as much nausea and morning sickness because you are carrying two babies may indeed be possible, it’s not actually a fact that you will experience this.

I know this to be true because I barely experienced a single episode of morning sickness throughout my entire twin pregnancy. I was lucky to receive the long end of the stick when it came to morning sickness and nausea, but this might not be true for you. Fingers crossed that it is though.

Just like any singleton pregnancy these symptoms may or may not appear during your twin pregnancy. 

Twin Pregnancy: First Trimester

  • Nausea; can begin in the very first month of pregnancy You may experience nausea just a few weeks after becoming pregnant
  • Increased urination (can start as early weeks as two weeks into a twin pregnancy)
  • You may experience some light headed or dizziness
  • Bloating and fatigue are common symptoms felt during the early stages of pregnancy
  • Strange Cravings is one the most common signs and symptoms of pregnancy as well as Morning Sickness/vomiting in the first trimester

In these early stages you may or may not experience some light spotting or bleeding, but it should not soak up  an entire pantyliner or pad, if so you may be having a miscarriage. 

Depending on a women’s Physique, Some women will begin to see a growing bulge, sometimes as early as 14 or 15 weeks.

Twin Pregnancy: Second Trimester

Some women’s morning sickness subsides during the second trimester, but this isn’t true for everyone

  • Around 16 and 17 Weeks is when most women experience their babies’ first kicks or movements. Don’t worry if you don’t! Some women experience fetal movement a few weeks earlier or later. You should definitely have felt some fetal movements by week 20.
  • As the fetuses continue to grow you will feel increased urges to urinate.
  • You should have had an ultrasound or 2 by Week 20. Your doctor or physician should be able to tell the definite sex of your twins by this age, although some physicians are able to discern the sexes slightly earlier.

Twin Pregnancy is treated as a high risk pregnancy so you will be seeing your physician as frequent as every two weeks.

Twin Pregnancy: Third Trimester: 28-40 Weeks

Those who may have experienced a break from nausea and morning sickness in the second trimester may be unpleasantly surprised to find that their nausea and morning sickness may have returned.

  • It is also common for you to experience a white or clear odorless discharge during pregnancy.
  • Back and joint pain is common during this stage of the pregnancy as your little ones are growing outward.
  • You may feel especially fatigued and increasingly uncomfortable at night due to fetal kicks, pain and insomnia
  • Towards the end stage of the pregnancy you will begin to experience braxton hicks contractions (different from real contractions that are consistent and a few minutes apart.
  • In the last few weeks you may lose your mucus plug

If your water breaks or feel you are having real contractions, head to the emergency room, and call your physician or midwife. Your own pregnancy experience will vary, remember to keep track of all your appointments, stay hydrated, maintain a healthy diet, and get plenty of rest when you need it.

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